Family Drama

Wow - what a weekend! I took off Friday for my Uncle's services, and now am back at my desk trying to put out fires.

This weekend was INSANE. My cousin has completely lost her mind. I knew she was always a wacko, but now I can claim that she is clinical. There were so many drama tantrums, her storming around, her telling funeral directors that she is in charge, her trying to run the show, and her just being an overall bitch, that I had about enough.

Everything came to a head on Friday. She was late to the funeral home because she was online trying to put a lien against the estate of her father to get the money back she put out for his funeral. Mind you, we haven't even been to the funeral home yet for the services. (My uncle just wanted to be laid out one day, and then cremated.) When my uncle's girlfriend arrived (after we learned that my cousin was going to be late), the funeral director told her that he was under orders not to let anyone in until my cousin got there. The girlfriend wasn't having it and went in - good for her! (BTW, my uncle left everything to his girlfriend, and made her executor of the Will.)

When she finally arrived (late) she wanted to keep bringing up about how she is contesting the Will and putting a lien, which her sister kept telling her wasn't the place. We left at 5pm to go to dinner, which set her off because she didn't want to leave him. We finally got her to the restaurant, where her sister and my mother were trying to talk to her about the legal stuff - which she blew up and stomped out of the restaurant, sighting she was "done" with all of us. One doesn't tell my mother "you are done." That went over like a lead balloon.

She finally came back in, but refused to eat. They left the restaurant about 10 mins before us, and when we got to the funeral home, the door to get into my uncle's room was closed. There were people waiting to get in. My cousin had went in with the funeral director and stated her wishes of who gets what flowers and the pictures - etc. My mom had stated earlier that she just wanted the 2 flowers that her friends sent. It didn't matter to her who brought what pictures, or anything else - they were all hers.

My priest came at 8pm, and my cousin went running out to meet him while I was talking to him. She was acting crazier than a bed-bug, and my priest really didn't know what to say to her. I told him to ignore her, she's crazy, to which he responded, "you think!?!?!?!" (he's so funny) We couldn't start the ceremony until after she changed seats two times and got comfortable, and found her son who was outside. We got through the ceremony and then all hell broke out again.

My mom saw the funeral director marking the flowers so she went to him and told him that those 2 belonged to her, as they were sent to her from her friends, because they wanted her to have the pretty vases they were in. The funeral director told her that he was informed by my cousin that everything goes to her, and no one is to take anything out of there except her. Again, wrong thing to say to my mother. She went to my cousin who told my mother that the funeral director is lying to my mother... my uncle's girlfriend stepped in and supported my mother.

As we were leaving with the flowers, and had some of my other cousin's helping us carry them out, my cousin started freaking out again. Her daughter told us to leave while we could, she's been like this for days, and she's not taking her meds that her therapist gave her (literally). We left. She and her sister got into a huge fight at the funeral home, since my cousin "wrote us off" earlier at the restaurant.

Now we get to Saturday....

My cousin called my uncle's girlfriend (who gets everything, including the house) and said that she was coming over immediately to get all of her father's stuff. The gf called my mom, to let her and my other cousin know that she was coming, and if we wanted anything to come too - as she didn't think it was fair to have her there and not us.

Well... she wouldn't leave. She was there for over 5 hours, cleared out the entire garage of tools, and my uncle's work truck, went through every piece of paper. The gf called my mom and told her that my cousin was getting hateful, saying mean things, and she won't go home. She's taken pretty much everything. My mom, and my other cousin told her to call the police. We called her husband who was out of town, who called my cousin's mother. My cousin then yelled at the gf for telling us she was there and stated that "Everything in that house was hers and we have no right to any of it - just her." She finally left...

Sunday was quiet, but she told the gf that she'd be back. Hopefully the gf will get a hold of the lawyer today, who will go after her! SHE's INSANE!